|Judith Whitehead lives in Amherst New York and has worked in the|
ophthalmology field of medicine over 30 years.
Today she talks about remembering dad not only on fathers day
but everyday. Happy Fathers day!
Fathers Day Approaches
Another Fathers Day is soon upon us; a time to celebrate our dads, husbands, children’s dads and dad-like men.
Over the years we have celebrated our father in many different ways. When we were young it was always a picnic with the family or a nice dinner somewhere and as our dad grew older we began to think of different ways to honor him. This year will be a little different for our celebration as our dad is more confined this year and we will be bringing Fathers Day to him.
QUICKLY approaching his mid nineties he is no longer as mobile as he once was with his mobility much more limited than ever before. He is still our special dad and we will all be joining him with a dinner and celebration of his many years as our dad.
It becomes more than difficult to see our parents age and live a more confined lifestyle. Their quality of life changes drastically in many cases and they spend many days in their super senior years morphing one day to the next. How I wish I could turn back the clock to once again watch my dad in his more glorious days golfing and traveling and enjoying his life to the fullest.
Now so much more frail as age has taken its toll on him as it does for many others in their 90’s; still able to muster up a smile now and then enjoying simple pleasures as the daily newspaper or a magazine.
All the fathers days in the past surrounded by gifts of ties or shirts or things that we thought he may enjoy are meaningless now; the best gift that now fits this occasion is good company and an enjoyable meal with the family gathered around at the table swapping our stories or remember when…..
There are few things that people need in their 90’s; they have seen and had it all and although at the time seemed important to them, seem insignificant at this time of life when just “being” is enough.
Take some time this Fathers day to enjoy the day remembering the good times and reminiscing about the past. Memories can be comforting at times and can be a relief from the present which is not always the best of situations. Let him know how much you care about your dad while he is still on this earth; don’t wait for another occasion because it may never come.
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