James “Kimo” Rosen is a retired professional photographer living in Kapa'a with his best friend Obama Da Dog, Rosen also blogs as a hobby... |
This blog also appeared as an opinion article in the 10-13-14 edition of the Kaua'i Garden island news;
http://thegardenisland.com/news/opinion/mailbag/letters-for-monday-october/article_b6ebb6a8-52a7-11e4-bde1-73bc665d3141.html
Discipline, then and now
I would like to politely disagree on the Kauai Garden Island newspaper's recent opinion article "A grown man should know better."
http://thegardenisland.com/news/opinion/editorial/a-grown-man-should-know-better/article_873e00ba-4dec-11e4-9c57-eb88e5b91dc3.html
A 51-year-old adult male allegedly walked onto a school bus at a bus stop in Anahola and threatened to punch a juvenile male if he bothered his child again.The man was arrested for making a second-degree terroristic threat. An investigation continues. Mahalo tgi for having the respect to not mention this man's name.
The articles main point is there are other ways to deal with such situations? Yes there are other ways, however when I was a kid this method would had been acceptable and would had scared the morning breakfast out of the bully.
In the mean time the father of the boy being bullied is arrested and the bully is further encouraged by knowing if he continues to bully and this happens again somebodies parent could again be arrested.
Parents can no longer spank their kids in horror of their offspring reporting it to the department human services. A father can no longer protect his child with good old punishment that would most probably work.
This reminds me of the case not to long ago where a man was arrested for making his son walk home form school as a punishment.
When I was a kid when I was threatened I straightened right up. Nobody ever followed through, just a scare tactic. "Just wait till your father get's home," was a threat my mother and mothers of that generation use that worked.
"OK, sorry mom, please don't tell dad, please."
We are raising a nations of wimps that as adults will not have a clue.
Most parents of my generation would be sitting in jail for disciplining their children.
Let's face it, time out's and talking about it doesn't work for all.
Spare the rod and spoil the child.
My parents back then. Nowadays parents cannot discipline their childrenwithout the fear of going to jail... |
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